Does single mean success?

[WAHumor]

It just struck me the other day: many of those who are achieving real success in online business are single.

Do the unattached enjoy special advantages - greater flexibility, more available time, more independence, less criticism and accountability?

Or are the special advantages actually fear and pressure?

On the flip side, do married folk do better or worse? Why?

[Lynn Terry]

It's funny you should say that. I'm single - and I always see it from the flip side. Married people have greater advantages... more help around the house, with the children, financial support, etc.

I think it's just a case of "the grass is always greener on the other side"

I doubt its as simple as single vs married - and more a case of external support, personality, confidence & ambition, etc.

I actually used to be married (gosh that seems ages ago) which was when I started my first business - which was quite successful. So that cant be the factor.

I think success is for anyone that wants it bad enough. It's one of those flexible things that we define as individuals, and have to believe in wholeheartedly.

[Marc Meole]

My wife give me tons of support so that's a big plus on the married side

Having a family (3 girls) does limit the time I can spend working online but they are also a motivation to pursh harder

[Lynn Terry]

Having a family (3 girls) does limit the time I can spend working online but they are also a motivation to pursh harder

I often wonder where I would be in life if I didnt have my two cool kids to consider in everything that I do. They have helped me to make wise decisions, smart choices, pursue bigger goals etc... and I am glad for that.

[americanwahm]

I do attribute a lot of my success in growing my business to being single. When I was still working full time, I was able to come home and put a lot of hours into my home business every day and still be Mom - but if there had been a hubby around the house, things would have been pretty different.

Heck, things would have been way different if Sean were younger or of there were two kids instead of one.

[pcwork]

If you are single , you can focus more on your business

[Lynn Terry]

If you are single , you can focus more on your business

Are you single

[Sapphire]

I totally agree that it depends. I'm single, which means I have to work full-time while trying to build my online success. I also have to do all my chores, errands, etc. And I know married people who have tons of time to devote to this stuff, because their partners take care of a lot of this stuff for them, or can afford to hire help.

On the other hand, I know so many married people whose partners leave everything up to them, and don't envy them for one second. And I know singles who have trust funds from wealthy families, and can afford to risk all sorts of things I can't, and take all sorts of time I don't have.

[americanwahm]

It's interesting. Some see that being married means shared responsbilities so more time for business. Others (me) see being married as extra time needed for the relationships.

I'd like the other time needed for relationships to BE needed - he he. But I haven't really thought about how having a husband would change all of my other responsibilities.

Probably because my teenager picks up a lot of my slack meaning he does the lawn mowing, takes out the trash, etc.

I guess things will look and feel differently when he is off to college. Then I'll really understand what managing it all along is like - again.

[Lynn Terry]

I can relate to that, Kelly. Relationships DO take a lot of time, but like all things there are two sides to the coin.

Sometimes I get overwhelmed with lawn mower repair, car maintenance, yardwork, home maintenance (gutters, etc), household chores, running the kids here and there, etc.

But then I realize how cheap it is to hire help or repairmen...

Now I may be alone on this one, I realize, but my experience has been that "the bakers wife never has fresh bread". Most of the men I know (warning - divorced woman speaking!) go work 8 hours and do nothing else at all outside of that. So I was still stuck doing it myself or hiring it out... on top of having to cook for them and be distracted by loud sports shows playing on the television.

I better quit there

Yes, I realize there are 'perfect men' out there. I just dont happen to be the perfect woman for them - which is fine by me

[TotalLifeSuccess.com]

Dan just asked a blanket "does being single/married help?"

I'd respond, "Does the relationship support you?"

A supportive relationship would tend to give support to each becoming all they could be personally or business wise.

A relationship that only saps energy, well... you get the picture.

How about your style of love (or where you're at in the relationship)? Passionate and all-consuming? I vote "the relationship will detract".

Later in the relationship after it's settled down? Tends towards "supports business".

Generally? Simply because "single" means no possibility of a relationship sapping your energy or time that *generally* being single supports the ability to focus more on your business. But that's not rocket science LOL

More important to me is how I can succeed profoundly WITH a partner and kids

[Lynn Terry]

(Being more serious now )...

I always say that a person or a relationship is either "part of the problem" or "part of the solution". Its important to identify that as early on as possible, and respond accordingly.

[stephfoster]

My husband is pretty supportive. Have to nag him sometimes to help with the housework but he is very supportive of my business. It does mean a lot of our "together" time is me working on my computer and him playing computer games on his.

We talk, though. I tell him what I'm working on or tease him about things going on in his game. I've got him pretty much trained to not say much when I'm typing though... he knows how frustrated he gets if he breaks a train of thought.

Honestly, I think small children make it harder than he does. My kids are 19 months and 4 years old. Not much I can do but work when they're asleep or distracted (but not getting into mischief... yeah, right).

[americanwahm]

It does mean a lot of our "together" time is me working on my computer and him playing computer games on his.

Co-existing like that is great together time!

I would like a guy who enjoys being 'with me' but doesn't need to always be engaging me in some way. Know what I mean?

[Lynn Terry]

I would like a guy who enjoys being 'with me' but doesn't need to always be engaging me in some way. Know what I mean?

Yes!