What will you do if you want to buy a gift for your love one? Yes, you decide if you want to head down to the gift store or visit ebay. Either way, you got to set your destination, the gift store or the computer.
Let's move this concept into life. You got to decide what you want in life. You got to set your destination, you got to set your goals.
Only you have the power to control you destiny. The key is having goals and setting them well enough and tracking them diligently enough to see them come to fruition.
The sad thing is most people live their life blindly, without a destination, without a goal. It is like a ship in the ocean without a direction. It will goes where the current brings them. Think about your life for a second, are you like the lost ship, you'll take whatever life present to you?
Be in control of who you want to be, what you want to achieve. Steer your ship in the direction you want it to go. This does not mean you will definitely reach there, but you won't be far away. If you are moving in the right direction you will do well in life.
In his book, Man's Search for Meaning, Victor Frankl, successor of Freud, argues that the "loss of hope and courage can gave a deadly effect on man." As a result of his experiences ina Nazi concentration camp, Frankl contend that when a man no longer possesses a motive for living, no future to look toward, he curls up in a corner and dies.
"Any attempt to restore a man's inner strength in camp, had first to succeed in showing him some future goal." He wrote.
Carry a goal card with you all the time. In this goal card, write down your goals. Every morning when you are off to work, read your goals once, put it in your pocket. Every night, when you empty your pocket, read it again.
Whenever you put your hands into the pocket, you touch your goal card. You picture your goals again.
I have the phobia of public speaking all my life until I started my own training company. I have to get out of the comfort zone. The first few trainings ware a disaster.
However I did set a goal for myself. That is to speak to three hundred people in a hall. I achieved that a year later, and it was so powerful that they engaged me again in the same year.
I re-set that goal again. To speak to 1000 people. I spoke to 900 people six months later. I did not achieve the 1000, but very close, isn't it?
Set your goals, put a direction for your life. You will never regret doing that.