Here's a suggestion that might help for the future. Hire consultants.
Don't try to figure everything out yourself, or you may get sucked in to nonsense like it sounds maybe 1 and 1 is dishing out.
Lynn has a special attention section of this forum for only $5 per month. I'd join that section, and get her advice on any major decisions you make. Losing control of your domains (if that's what happened) is a major blunder that is easily avoided with just a bit of help.
This is probably overkill for you, but as example, this company of webhosting experts will answer all questions you submit, for $30/month.
https://platinumservermanagement.com/
If you have access to reliable third party experts, you don't need to believe whatever your host tells you.
Best of luck.